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my current campaigns(and the future of this blog)

I’ve had a lot going on lately, and have had a number of epiphanies over the last couple weeks so I thought I’d write a post about what I’m currently working on, what I’ve learned this summer, and what you can expect from www.itsfatai.blogspot.com in the near future.

Socializing

After a lifetime of being an introvert I decided to take part in The 90 Day Social Challenge. I planned to get out of the house and do at least one social thing per day. The goal of this challenge was to develop my social skills, do some crazy stuff while I’m still a teenager, and build a social circle.

The results of the challenge?

June: 14 Social Days

July: 16 Social Days

August: 14 Social Days (Thus far)

Overall: 44 Days Out Of 88.

Obviously things didn’t go according to plan, but I like the direction I’m moving in here. In previous summers I’d only leave the house once or twice per month so there was definitely a lot of progress here. I may not have achieved my goal of going out every night, but I definitely had a lot of fun, developed my social skills, and have a better social circle than ever before (though it still needs some work).

I also had some key epiphanies in regards to socializing this summer. Perhaps most importantly the idea of classifying yourself as an introvert.

While it may be true that some people are “introverted” and have a less of a need to socialize than others it’s also true that we all have a need for some amount of socialization in our lives.

Your results may vary, but I’ve found that when I socialize less than three times per week there’s a noticeable buildup of stress in my body, and I also feel a lot more in my head and socially awkward.

On the flip-side, when I’m hammering away every night for a week things become less fun and my relationships feel less genuine. People begin to feel like objects that I’m using just to get things from, and I view reality through a distorted lens where girls are numbers rather than people.

I’ve found that ideally I need to be going out 3-6 times per week. This seems to be the ideal amount to maintain social momentum, while at the same time maintaining realness in my relationships and having fun.

This is definitely something to consider experimenting with, especially if you consider yourself an introvert. Going forward I plan to continue going out three nights per week (likely Fri-Sun during the school year), and I’ll also likely write a future blog post on specific social calibrations and lessons I’ve learned.

Blogging

I’ve had a blast this summer. I’ve written almost everyday and published nearly 91 posts (I think this is post 92 wink wink). With that being said I plan to take a different approach to blogging in the future.

Several of you have commented that the quality of posts have really gone up lately. Well, it hasn’t been a coincidence. I thought I was doing a good job before, but after writing The Ultimate Guide To Turning Your Life Around And Living Your Dreams I realized there was a whole ‘nother gear I could kick into.

In addition to the natural skill progression that comes from writing consistently I’ve also been putting a lot more effort into the blog posts here so I’m glad you guys have been able to benefit from it.

Higher quality posts take a lot more time to produce so if you’ve also noticed my posting frequency drop off a bit that’s why. From what I’ve seen though this decreased frequency isn’t actually bad though because I think many felt overwhelmed with trying to keep up with a blog post per day.

However, with summer vacation coming to an end blog post frequency is likely going to drop even further. In addition to school wasting eight hours of my life everyday, my actual writing time is now going to be split between writing blog posts for www.itsfatai.blogspot.com, guest posting on other blogs to help new readers find us, as well as attempting to write my first ebook.

All in all, however, I think I’ll still manage to be able to post 2-3 high quality articles per week so don’t worry about me falling off the face off the Earth. :)

Rapping



My idea of "rapper swag."

The recent introduction of rap into my life has been really interesting. I’ve tried to establish rapping as a hobby several times over the last couple years, but I never really enjoyed it much.

However, I tried it again a few days ago, and something inside my head just clicked. I was rapping to the beat, and I got completely lost in the music. I was completely dialed in, and similar to when you’re in a really deep meditation I was just vibing for several minutes until a funky beat came on and snapped me out of it.

I was able to get in that zone several times, but even when I wasn’t I enjoyed rapping more than ANYTHING ELSE I’ve ever done. I’ve only put maybe 50 hours of practice into rapping in my life so I still suck at this point, but even though my rhymes were whack I was having the time of my life.

Like seriously, I think this rapping business may be my passion. I’ve done it for 3-4 hours the last several days, and no matter what I do I’m unable to stop thinking about it.

here's how people voted #BBAthechase

Here is how Africa Voted this week (25 August 2013) – Congratulations to Dillish (Namibia) on winning The Chase.

Here's who which country voted for:

Angola: Dillish
Botswana: Cleo
Ghana: Elikem
Kenya: Dillish
Ethiopia: Beverly
Malawi: Cleo
Namibia: Dillish
Nigeria: Melvin
South Africa: Cleo
Sierra Leone: Elikem
Tanzania: Dillish
Uganda: Dillish
Zambia: Cleo
Zimbabwe: Elikem
Rest of Africa: Melvin

Total: Dillish = 5, Cleo = 4, Elikem = 3, Melvin = 2, Beverly = 1.

(Total: 15 Votes)

Actor Wentworth Miller says he's gay, turns down Russian festival invite

Actor and screenwriter Wentworth Miller, best known for his leading role in Fox television drama "Prison Break," came out as a gay man on Wednesday in a letter declining an invitation to attend a Russian film festival in light of Moscow's recently adopted anti-gay laws.

Miller, 41, turned down an offer to attend the St. Petersburg International Film Festival as a "guest of honor" in a letter posted on the website of advocacy group GLAAD, which monitors media representation of gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender people and issues.

"Thank you for your kind invitation. As someone who has enjoyed visiting Russia in the past and can also claim a degree of Russian ancestry, it would make me happy to say yes. However, as a gay man, I must decline," Miller wrote to festival director Maria Averbakh.

Miller wrote that he was "deeply troubled by the current attitude toward and treatment of gay men and women by the Russian government," and did not want attend a festival in a country where "people like myself are being systematically denied their basic right to live and love openly."

Russia's parliament banned the spread of gay "propaganda" among minors in a law passed in June, which includes imposing fines on those holding gay pride rallies, has attracted international condemnation.

Miller, who played incarcerated structural engineer Michael Scofield in Fox's "Prison Break" from 2005 to 2009, has recently turned his hand at screenwriting, penning the script for this year's dark thriller "Stoker," starring Nicole Kidman.

Miller's letter comes after Bravo channel host and executive producer Andy Cohen told E! News last week that he would not be co-hosting Donald Trump's Miss Universe pageant this year in Moscow because he "didn't feel right as a gay man stepping foot into Russia.

Private jet owners barred from govt terminal

Barely three months after unveiling a new policy for general aviation, which barred private jet owners from carrying their friends and associates, the Federal Government has stopped private jet owners and chartered jet operators from using the international wing of the Murtala Muhammed Airport in Lagos for foreign travels.

The order, which has taken effect, was conveyed through a memo from the Federal Airports Authority of Nigeria to the heads of all the security agencies operating at the MMIA.

Airport sources said some private jet owners and chartered jet operators had stopped travelling through the international wing of the MMIA.

As a result, private jet owners and chartered jet passengers travelling out and coming into the country will not go through the required security screening, including that of the Immigration, Customs, narcotics control and the State Security Service at the MMIA. (Read the rest on  Punch)

is 'once a cheat' always a cheat? true for all men

Below is an article I found on Traceycox.com. I want you guys to read her opinion on forgiving infidelity and tell us what you think...
Is the ‘once a cheat, alis once a cheat always a ways a cheat’ belief true? If your partner’s cheated once, are you wrong to trust them again? The answer isn’t as clear cut as it first appears because people cheat for different reasons.
If you’re trying to decide whether your partner deserves another chance, a more helpful question to ask is why did they cheat in the first place.
Some people cheat to get their partner’s attention. If their partner’s a workaholic or unavailable to them, being caught with someone else is a way of saying ‘Hey, if you love me, pay attention to me!'.
‘Payback cheating’ is also common. If you’ve cheated in the past or done something else to hurt your partner, they might retaliate to get even.

Has it happened before? A true serial cheater will often see nothing wrong with being unfaithful
If your partner's been desperately trying to tell you they're unhappy but not feeling heard, cheating might well be a cry for help (albeit not an advisable way to flag up relationship problems).

Even if you don’t decide to forgive, cheating for these reasons is entirely different than ‘opportunistic’ cheating: not turning down a low-risk opportunity simply because monogamy doesn’t supply the erotic charge that new flesh delivers.

Trying to predict whether your partner will cheat again?

Ask yourself these questions: What’s their cheating history? If they’ve cheated on every person they’ve ever been out with and been forgiven for doing so, why should they stop?
It might cause you problems, but it’s working for them. A true serial cheater will often see nothing wrong with being unfaithful.

When caught, they’ll either get angry and tell you it’s none of your business - making it easier to leave - or turn on the tears and blame their past, making (false) promises they’ll reform. They won’t.
If your partner has a history of being unfaithful and forgiven or they’ve done it to you repeatedly, they will almost certainly continue to cheat.

What was the state of the relationship? If your relationship’s in tatters - you’re not communicating well and arguing bitterly - it’s easier to understand and forgive than if someone cheats when you’ve just come back from a blissfully, loved-up holiday in the Caribbean.

What sort of person is your partner? Is this out of character for them? Are they otherwise kind and loving?

Do you have children together? If you do, there’s clearly more incentive to try to work it out.

Is your relationship worth fighting for? Have you been limping along for a while now, with no real joy left? Or is this a horrible but genuine mistake in an otherwise solid relationship?

If your partner's been desperately trying to tell you they're unhappy but not feeling heard, cheating might well be a cry for help, argues Tracey
How sorry are they for betraying you? Do they accept how much they’ve hurt you and genuinely want to make it up to you?

If you decide your partner is worth taking the risk on again, take a long, hard look at that last sentence and make sure the answer is yes.

The problem with giving second chances is this: once you forgive bad behaviour, you effectively condone it.

It needs to be absolutely clear that if you find out they’ve cheated again, you’ll walk with no questions asked.

If you’ve already done this and it’s a repeat offence, walk now

Beyonce's perfume collection named best celebrity scent in the world

Beyonce is the best at everything. Not only has she sold out her world tour with no new music, her Heat Collection of fragrances was just named the best selling celebrity scent in the world.

canada says wishes BlackBerry well, no comment on speculation

the Canadian government on Monday said it wished BlackBerry Ltd well, but it would not speculate on the future of the smartphone maker after the company announced the creation of a committee to review its options.

"We recognize BlackBerry is exploring strategic alternatives to enhance its competitiveness; we wish (it) well. However, we do not comment on speculation," said Sebastien Gariepy, a spokesman for Industry Minister James Moore.

Prime Minister Stephen Harper told Reuters in February 2012 that he wanted BlackBerry to grow "as a Canadian company." Former industry minister Christian Paradis referred to the company as a "Canadian jewel" in December 2011

Actress Lea Michele dedicates award to Cory Monteith

Actress Lea Michele, in her first public appearance since the death of her boyfriend and cast mate Cory Monteith, dedicated her Teen Choice Award on Sunday in Los Angeles to the actor who died of an accidental drug and alcohol overdose last month.

With tears in her eyes and her hand on her chest, Michele, 26, thanked fans for the best actress in a TV comedy award for her role as Rachel Berry in the musical series "Glee" and for their support in dealing with Monteith's death.

"He was very special to me and also to the world, and we were very lucky to witness his incredible talent, his handsome smile and his beautiful, beautiful heart," she told the audience at the Gibson Amphitheatre.

Monteith, 31, was found dead in a Vancouver hotel room on July 13. The actor, who played high school athlete turned glee club singer Finn Hudson in the Fox musical comedy, had struggled with substance abuse and was in rehab in April.

His death forced Fox to push back the start of the show's fifth season, which will address Monteith's death, by a week to September 26.

Earlier in the Teen Choice Awards other members of the "Glee" cast accepted the award for best TV comedy show

Man shoots, kills himself in hospital room after wife gives birth

A Houston man shot himself to death in his wife's hospital room on Sunday, 3 1/2 hours after she had given birth to their baby, police said.

"Family members said he has been distraught recently," Houston police spokesman John Cannon said on Monday.

The man, whose identity has not been released, shot himself in a private room at Willowbrook Methodist Hospital in Northwest Houston on Sunday afternoon, Cannon said. He died shortly after being transported to another hospital, according to the Harris County Institute of Forensic Sciences.

His wife, who gave birth earlier on Sunday, was not injured, and Cannon said the baby was not in the room at the time.

Although Texas has a law allowing licensed firearms owners to carry concealed weapons, they are prohibited in many places, including hospitals.

Police did not know what kind of gun was used. A spokesperson from the Houston Methodist Hospital would not comment on the incident

Tennessee judge orders baby's name changed from 'Messiah': report

A Tennessee judge has ordered a baby's first name changed from "Messiah" to Martin, saying that the only true messiah is Jesus Christ, a ruling the boy's mother promises to appeal, a Tennessee television station has reported.

The parents of Messiah DeShawn Martin went before Tennessee Child Support Magistrate Lu Ann Ballew because they could not agree on the 7-month-old's last name.

Ballew instead last week ordered the baby's name changed to Martin DeShawn McCullough, the Tennessee television station WBIR reported.

"The word 'messiah' is a title, and it's a title that has only been earned by one person, and that one person is Jesus Christ," Ballew told WBIR.

Ballew, who could not be reached for comment on Sunday, said the child would likely struggle with his given first name because he lives in Cocke County, a predominantly Christian area in eastern Tennessee.

"It could put him at odds with a lot of people and, at this point, he has had no choice in what his name is," Ballew said.

Jaleesa Martin, the baby's mother, told WBIR she would appeal the judge's order.

"I didn't think a judge could change my baby's name because of her religious beliefs," Martin said.

Christianity refers to Jesus as the Messiah, while Judaism uses the term to mean an anticipated savior of the Jews. Dictionary definitions say the word can mean one who is seen as, expected or professes to be a savior or liberator.

Messiah was the 387th most popular name for boys born in the United States in 2012, based on applications for Social Security cards filed with the U.S. Social Security Administration.

In all, there were 762 applications for boys named Messiah in 2012, up from 368 applications in 2011, the Social Security Administration said

Whatchu waiting for?

There is a one-million dollar award for anyone that can demonstrate that they have a paranormal or supernatural ability

Casio Updates G-Shock Bluetooth Line With Added Functionality

Don’t call it a smart watch. The Casio GB line appeared in 2011 with little fanfare – it was up against devices like the Pebble in the public imagination and so an underpowered smartwatch was of little interest. However, Casio has updated their Bluetooth line with the GB-6900B And GB-X6900B, improved versions of their iconic G-Shock watches that allow you to control your phone from your watch and, more important, control your watch from your phone.
For example, you can do the standard remote control actions on the watch including turning phone audio up and down and seeing snippets of text messages and emails. However, the new Casio Engine 2 movement also allows you to set watch features via an interface on the phone including alarms, stopwatch activation, and the like. Most interesting are the phone sensing features that allows you to find your phone if it is near the watch and to tap the watch to turn off an incoming call.
ABlogTowatch has a full rundown of features and notes that many of these are things you might actually use. While it doesn’t sense your heartbeat, blood pressure, and pants size it does do a few important things well and, more important, connects to your phone via low power Bluetooth profile 4.0. This makes it easier to justify connecting the watch to your phone simply because the battery will wear slower than traditional Bluetooth devices.
Again, the G-Shock isn’t for everybody. However, if you’re looking to geek out you could do worse for $200. The watches should be available here in a few months

Spotify wants to be everything to everybody

You can get a little music from a lot of places, but Spotify is on a quest to be your omni-jukebox. It’s already offers on-demand streaming and radio, and it’s just launched Browse, a new way to discover critic and community playlists for different moods and genres. Spotify hopes to combine social, algorithms, and expert curation to beat the platforms and become the only music companion you need.
“It’s a really good time to be in music ” Spotify product manager Miles Lennon tells me. “Five years ago people wrote off the ability for music startups to succeed. We’re really happy to be part of a resurgence.”
The only problem is music is becoming a commodity. Every smartphone manufacturer and operating system want to have their own music service, because the iPod proved that music is a fundamental part of the mobile experience. Apple has iTunes, and soon iTunes Radio. Google just launched Google Play Music All Access. Nokia and Samsung have their own, while HTC bought MOG. They all have the benefit of device pre-installations or preferred access.
How can Spotify compete? By being a music company. Not a “media company” that dabbles in video and books. Not an advertising company that uses music as a medium. And not a hardware company looking to round out its offering. Spotify just has to be a music company 100%.
That’s the plan. Spotify now has over 24 million active users and over 6 million premium subscribers. A spokesman says its global headcount is now around 800, and financial filings show it doubled its revenue in 2012 to $533 million.
It’s a good start, but Spotify is still struggling to convince people music is worth listening to ads or paying for after the Napster era convinced the world that music is free. Spotify Director and Napster co-founder Sean Parker has said that the only way to beat piracy is with convenience and accessibility,

First taste Test-Tube burger Declared ''Close to Meat''

Kate Kelland, Health and Science Correspondent

LONDON (Reuters) - The world's first laboratory-grown beef burger was flipped out of a petri dish and into a frying pan on Monday, with food tasters declaring it tasted "close to meat".

Grown in-vitro from cattle stem cells at a cost of 250,000 euros ($332,000), the burger was cooked and eaten in front of television cameras to gain the greatest media coverage for the culmination of a five-year science experiment.

Resembling a standard circular-shaped red meat patty, it was created by knitting together 20,000 strands of laboratory-grown protein, combined with other ingredients normally used in burgers, such as salt, breadcrumbs and egg powder. Red beet juice and saffron were added to give it color.

The two food tasters were reserved in their judgment, perhaps keen not to offend their host at the London event, noting the burger's "absence of fat".

Pressed for a more detailed description of the flavor, food writer Josh Schonwald said the cultured beef had an "animal protein cake" like quality to it, adding that he would like to try it with some of the extras often served with traditional burgers - salt, pepper, ketchup and jalapenos.

Even the scientist behind the burger's creation, vascular biologist Mark Post of Maastricht University in the Netherlands, was relatively muted in his praise of its flavor.

"It's a very good start," he told the hundreds of reporters who had gathered to watch the meat being cooked and served.

The Dutch scientist's aim was to show the world that in the future meat will not necessarily have to come from the environmentally and economically costly rearing and slaughtering of millions of animals.

"Current meat production is at its maximum - we need to come up with an alternative," he said.

MASSIVE SCALE

The World Health Organization (WHO) says meat production is projected to rise to 376 million tons by 2030 from 218 million tons annually in 1997-1999, and demand from a growing world population is expected to rise beyond that.

According to a 2006 report by the U.N. Food and Agriculture Organization (FAO), industrialized agriculture contributes on a "massive scale" to climate change, air pollution, land degradation, energy use, deforestation and biodiversity decline.

The meat industry contributes about 18 percent of global greenhouse gas emissions, a proportion expected to grow as consumers in fast-developing countries such as China and India eat more meat, the report said.

Chris Mason, a professor of regenerative medicine at University College London, who was not involved in the research, said it was "great pioneering science" with the potential to ease environmental, health and animal welfare problems.

But, he added: "whilst the science looks achievable, the scalable manufacturing will require new game-changing innovation".

Post said he was confident his concept can be scaled up to offer a viable alternative to animal meat production, but said it may be another 20 years before lab-grown meat appears on supermarket shelves.

He also conceded that the flavor of his meat must be improved if it is to become a popular choice.

Post resisted requests from journalists from all over the world eager to try a morsel of the world's first cultured beef burger, saying there was not enough to go around.

Instead, he said, his children would be offered the leftovers.

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French woman offers breast-feeding services to Gay-parents

PARIS (Reuters) - A woman has posted an offer on a French website to breast-feed babies of homosexual male couples for 100 euros ($130) a day, stirring up media interest just weeks after a divisive same-sex marriage law was passed.

The post, which the website said it verified as genuine and legal, reads: "I am a young mother in perfect health, a trained nurse of 29, and I am renting my breasts to milk-feed infants."

The offer, addressed to male homosexual couples who can marry legally in France since May, promises up to 10 breast-feeds a day. The woman is mobile and based near Paris, it says.

Alexandre Woog, chief executive of the e-loue website where the offer appeared, said its staff had contacted the person and had no doubt about her identity and the seriousness of the proposal, nor the legality of the service proposed.

"Our legal advisers are sure of this. It's illegal in France to sell maternal milk but this is a person proposing a service, not selling the milk in flasks," Woog told Reuters.

While France has just joined more than a dozen countries to legalize marriage and adoption of children by same-sex couples, it does not permit surrogacy or assisted reproduction for gay and lesbian couples.

Reuters was unable to independently confirm the authenticity of the French breast-feed offer or the identity of the person behind it, who said in response to queries via the website that many people had replied to the proposal.

"I've received more than a dozen requests, but only half of them were serious. The rest were from perverts," the poster of the offer, run like all adverts under a pseudonym, said in an exchange with Reuters.

Woog said his website, created in 2009 as a platform where users can offer or hire anything legal online, checks any posts that raise eyebrows.

The breast-feeding offer was the second major eyecatcher since the website was founded, he said. Another user previously offered to rent out two goats as lawn-cutters.

(Reporting by Brian Love; Editing by Raissa Kasolowsky)

One Day at a Time

Off topic: I just experienced a tiny bit of anxiety about the capitalisation scheme I should use for post headings. I both like and dislike that about myself. The duality of human nature I guess.

I prioritised some short, medium and long-term goals yesterday, a mixture of projects and habits. I enjoyed a really awesome day in nature with friends and family today but once I arrived home this post weighed heavily on my mind. Yesterday I committed to writing a follow-up post today that provided more detail on how I was planning on implementing my prioritised list.

Up until an hour ago I was still not happy with my approach to reaching my goals so I put off writing the post. My plan was heading towards the 'too traditional', it was too similar to the way corporates would plan a project... and then beautiful inspiration struck. There's a famous AA slogan that suddenly popped into my head: "One day at a time". Everything else clicked into place after that.

There's a lot on my list that needs to get done and I know from experience that my circumstances change constantly. Planning a month ahead is pointless at this juncture, especially considering the sheer number of goals I want to take on at once. Instead I'm simply going to plan for Monday, see how it goes, and make adjustments for Tuesday. Perhaps I'll eventually have enough insight to plan more than a day ahead of time but at the moment there are just way too many unknown variables. Even trying to plan a week ahead would be a waste of time right now.

Jeez, I was hoping this post would be short and to the point...

Why plan for Monday when tomorrow is Sunday? Sunday is probably one of my most regimented and busiest days of the week. It's a day spent with family and friends amongst other things. I'd like to put aside some time tomorrow to start working on that outstanding documentation I mentioned yesterday but that might not happen with everything else on the go. I have to be realistic about it so I'll stick to planning Monday. Here's what I hope to achieve on Monday:

5:45 Wake up. Quiet time (thanks to Ram for giving me the idea for this)

6:15 Normal morning routine. Get dressed. Prepare some bullet-proof coffee (my version of it)

6:45 Drive to gym

7:00 Exercise (Crossfit)

7:45 Hit the showers. Get dressed

8:00 Drive to work

8:30 - 16:30 Work (Consists of providing feedback on Friday meeting, planning, documentation, investigating and answering some Q/A queries, answering a question I received via e-mail regarding a script I wrote and dealing with whatever else comes up, drive home)

17:00 - 19:30 Arrive at home. Spend time with the family. Eat (healthy food of course). Get my daughter bathed (if you have kids you know how much work this involves). Get my daughter ready for bed

19:30 - 21:30 Work on outstanding documentation

21:30 - 22:00 Relax before bed. Write post for Tuesday if I don't get to it earlier in the day

So that's the plan for Monday. I touches on goals one though six in my master plan I shared yesterday. My next post will be sometime during Monday. I'll be brutally honest about how well it worked out.

Thanks for reading!

Losing Friends

So much pain... He had few friends, at least friends in his mind. So many people cared for him, but so many hated him too. He would try to change those peoples' minds, but life just doesn't work like that. There is always someone who will hate you. Someone who will be against you. But the hardest of all was losing the few friends he did have as he got worse. The pain was too hard to bear on his own, and so he turned to his friends. But they couldn't handle it either and turned away. As he reached out, they retracted. And he cried, cried, and cried

The moment you feel like quitting

'Cause sometimes you feel tired,

feel weak, and when you feel weak, you feel like you wanna just give up.

But you gotta search within you, you gotta find that inner strength

and just pull that shit out of you and get that motivation to not give up

and not be a quitter, no matter how bad you wanna just fall flat on your face and collapse.” ~Eminem (from the song Till I Collapse)

The difference between the average person and the successful one is how they react in the moment they feel like quitting. The average person will quit as soon as they feel like it, but a nearly universal trait among successful people is their ability to push through this discomfort.

Yesterday I was practicing my public speaking and seeing how long I could talk off the cuff for. For the first dozen or so attempts I plateaued at about a minute. I was tired and my apparent inability to talk longer than that really discouraged me.

My motivation was nonexistent and at the time focusing on anything for longer than three seconds seemed impossible. I wanted to quit more than anything else. But I didn’t.

I knew that although I showed up, I hadn’t fully exhausted myself so I made the commitment to take one more recording. I hadn’t expected much after the previous dozen plateaued at about a minute each, but on my final attempt I manage to talk for eleven minutes straight.

I can’t tell you why things seem to happen this day, but I’ve found that in the moments I feel the least motivated, I’m often able to get the best results if I’m willing to show up.

Of course, telling you not to quit is easy. Actually refusing to do so is much more difficult so here’s some things to keep in my mind when you feel like giving up.

What You Have To Lose. If you’re running to get in shape think about all the things you’d be missing out on if you quit. Imagine gaining weight, feeling unhealthy, and not being able to look at yourself in mirror.

What You Have To Gain. If you’re writing a blog article and you feel like quitting resist the temptation to do so. If you’re able to finish the article you’ll feel more confident for pushing yourself past your limits, add another article to your archive, and likely help many people in the process.

Your Past. Think about how you felt the last time you gave up on yourself. You probably felt pretty low. Now imagine the last time you got out of your comfort zone and pushed yourself past your limits. You probably felt awesome right? Now decide which way you plan to feel next.

If you still lack motivation after doing those three things then stop thinking about not wanting to do “x” and just do it. If you think about it too long you’ll make justifications in your head about why it’s not that important, and why you don’t need to do it.

Above all, remember that refusing to quit the moment you feel like it will be the difference between success and mediocrity

Now Reading: God is not a christian ~ Desmond tutu

Over the last week I've been reading this book which is a collection of writings, sermons and speeches by Desmond Tutu during his time in the public eye. I haven't finished it yet, but boy! what courage this man has.

My brother read this book before me and he also commented on Mr Tutu's courage, stating that he felt the erstwhile Anglican Archbishop was even more courageous that our dad. At that point, I had to read this book. Not that I think my dad was the most courageous dude that ever lived but, that was high commendation.

Mr Tutu (I can call him Mr right?) is clearly a man who is not afraid to say what he feels or champion causes he strongly believes in; even in the face of immense pressure/criticism/threat to life. Not kidding. This is a man who, only a few days ago said he would rather not go a homophobic heaven because he doesn't serve a homophobic God. Straight up middle finger to the Christian establishment.

But that's not the reason why I've kept on reading him though, even though I admit to loving this about him. I've continued with this book, because his belief and take on God is almost on all fours as mine. I don't think God is the prerogative of any singular religion, most especially Christians. That for me is a laughable concept as Christians draw their root from a religion that worships this same God in a different way. Therefore, if one other mode of a relationship with God exists, who are we to say there isn't another, or another?

However, this concept was fully formed when a read a book back on 2010. The book is surprisingly not a religious thesis or document. It was Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert. Yes people. I came to the conclusion that God is not my prerogative, neither is He the prerogative of any religion after reading the memoirs of a woman, who on a journey to finding peace in her life, also found God. Her description of her spiritual experience in India was so relatable to my burgeoning Christian experience in my little corner in Warri, that I came to the conclusion that if someone else on the other side of the world made such a spiritual connection with God through meditation, it had to real, pure and perhaps the same God.

We as Christians or practitioners of any other religion must realise that God is God, and He is free to reveal Himself to anyone in anyway that pleases Him. Such that I can not and do not under rate the reality of another's God experience or relationship. If only others in this temporal world of ours could come to that conclusion, we would be so much closer to that sought after oasis, "peace on earth."

I haven't finished the book yet, but I have already developed a healthy respect for this fine man of faith.

By the Buzz...

While reading, I kept coming across references to Martin Luther King Jr and decided to give some of his work a proper read (and I'm meant to be working). So I ran a google search and read the Drum Major Instinct, the I Have a Dream Speech and When Peace Becomes Obnoxious.

I may not agree with all he has said but I must confess that man was blessed with a gift. A true orator and an inspiration to many

My heart has done that much over one good weekend on crystal meth

If a person lives to be 80 years of age, their heart has already beaten at least 2,943,360,000 times